When asked what would help them to stay in work, empathy and understanding from employers came through in our research as one of the most important things.
Poor workplace cultures and overly bureaucratic procedures are causing many people to put off speaking to their employer about their health until the last minute.
And lots of the people we spoke to felt embarrassed about telling their colleagues about a health condition or told us about negative reactions they’d faced.
One person we interviewed, a sales manager with osteoarthritis, told us about the comments that they’d received such as, 'Come on. Get on with it' or 'What’s the matter with you?' They had been given handguards to help with the pain caused by the condition, but these attracted attention and in some cases ridicule from co-workers. This left them feeling unable to talk about their condition at work.
In another example, we heard about a woman who was suffering badly from menopause symptoms and was trying to hide them at work, left 'grimacing in the corner' as a result. Her manager brought her into the office and explained, 'Look, we’re a young, vibrant team here, we don’t want anyone letting the side down' – displaying a shocking lack of empathy for someone in obvious pain.
We also met one employee who was told not to discuss a mental health condition they had taken time off work to seek help with. On returning to work, the employee was told to say they’d been off with a virus, with the company explaining they didn’t want colleagues to know they’d been off with a mental illness.
A common thread through all of these is a fundamental lack of empathy. A failure of colleagues and managers to ask, 'How would I feel if I was in their shoes?'